Growth means being willing to honestly explore our “Darkness”, our vulnerabilities, our fears, our challenges; admitting we have them; and then DOING THE WORK to navigate them PRODUCTIVELY to ENHANCE our Lives and our Relationships.
What’s good For the Goose is Good For the Gander Read More »
One thing the grief of losing my brother and the grief of losing whatever I had with Tim has taught me is that even when I am in the throes of feelings that don’t feel awesome, I need to be cognizant of how I let them affect my other relationships.
Again, while we cannot control the actions of others, we have COMPLETE control over our behavior.
Grief and Relationships Read More »
The idea of compersion in polyamorous relationships is that you receive/feel joy when your partner(s) find joy in their other partners. So, what happens when your partner is saddened or gets hurt in one of their other relationships? Say… in the event of a breakup or argument? How do we support them?
Supporting Your Polyamorous Partners in Times of Heartache Read More »
When we are clear on our own expectations, we are better equipped to have conversations with our people to discuss them. The chance of our Beloveds dropping the ball on expectations goes up if they don’t know what expectations we are holding them to. The same goes for us. We are more likely to disappoint our Beloveds if we don’t know what they expect from us.
Great Expectations: Setting Expectations Within Our Relationships Read More »
You don’t owe anyone anything else. You do not have to start explaining why you are setting this boundary. You do not have to say why something/someone makes you feel uncomfortable.
Boundaries People! Boundaries!: A Guide to Setting Boundaries in Your Relationships Read More »
“Compersion is a word the Polyamory Community adopted. In traditional “monogamous” communities; Compersion means to find joy and happiness in others’ joy and happiness.”
Compersion, Compersion, Compersion… Another F**king Blog About Compersion Read More »
Healthy relationships are built on trust. Non-monogamous relationships especially take a great deal of trust. We must not only trust in our partners, but we also must have trust in our relationships and ourselves.
Having an awesome metamour whom you like, and respect can go a long way when dealing with those compersion gremlins … But what happens when you don’t like your metamour, AT ALL? I’m not talking about just not wanting to have a relationship with them because it is weird for you to hang out with someone who is also involved with your partner. I’m talking about hands down, cannot stand the person.
Metamour Misery in Polyamorous Relationships Read More »
Many people go into the world of polyamory wearing rose-colored glasses. It doesn’t matter the reason we decided to take the journey, many of us visualize not one, but several “fairytale” perfect relationships with lovers, and little to no effort. Somewhere in the beginning, I did too. And then, the truths set in.
The Truths Behind “Happily Ever After” in Polyamorous Relationships Read More »
In Polyamorous relationships, New Relationship Energy can deal a nasty blow to existing romantic relationships which can lead to jealousy, resentment, and feelings of neglect.
Navigating through New Relationship Energy (NRE) in Polyamorous Relationships Read More »